Are you struggling with big feelings that others seem to shrug off? Do you feel you are “weak” because your worries, anxiety, sadness or depression overwhelms you?
I help individuals understand their anxiety or sadness and together we figure out how to cope with or hopefully eliminate these overwhelming feelings. My speciality in couples counseling makes me uniquely qualified to work with individuals as they struggle in their marriages or relationships.
I have a blog on this site where you can find more information about me and my work. I hope that it will give you a sample of how I practice and a sense of my “voice.”
Has your sex life come to a complete standstill? Has your relationship been overwhelmed by apathy? Have the fights gotten worse?
Couples face unique struggles and challenges at each stage in their relationship. These stages include major milestone anniversaries (the 7 year itch; the 10th anniversary fight; the 16th anniversary slump) as well as transitions (babies, job changes and relocations). I have experience: working with premarital couples as they prepare for their commitment; coaching couples struggling with raising children on how to stay connected; and helping couples through end-of-relationship issues (divorce, illness or death). The four topics that I focus on with my couples are: generosity, curiosity, communication skills and humor.
If you are considering couples counseling with me please note that I will ask (and then ask again) about your sex and sensual life. This is a very important part of a your life together and one that many therapists find difficult to discuss. Talking with your partner about sex can bring up unique feelings of shame. It is important that you find a safe place to explore your needs, the differences in your desire levels and to develop language so that you can continue to grow the sensual side of your personality.
I love working with couples in the beginning stages of their relationship or marriage. I believe strongly that there are skills and tools that can help your marriage succeed. My goal is to help you develop a strong foundation on which you can build a life.
Not all of us grew up seeing what a strong marriage looks like. Some of us did not see in our parent’s marriage how a good relationship can hold the anxiety, grief and stresses of life and that these stresses can bring a couple closer. We did not all get to see two people doing the work of life (housework, raising kids, managing finances, etc) in a joyful, harmonious way. Many of our “blueprints” of a marriage are flawed, bad or even toxic. It is possible to learn new skills and create the relationship that you want. Please see my Premarital Counseling page to find out more.
I look forward to our work together at either my Boulder or Broomfield location.